The Pro
While I hate to use the word “normal” when talking about sex (sex therapists will tell you that the question they get asked the most is “Am I normal?”), the fact is that most men do climax once and then have varying “refractory periods”—the amount of time it takes for them to be able to get an erection again. There are men whose refractory periods are amazingly short and some who really can get it up right away. These men are extremely rare. I featured one of them, a gorgeous hunk who goes by the name of Johnny Dannon, in a couple of my movies!
However, most men who are able to have a succession of orgasms in a row have actually learned this technique through practicing Tantric or Taoist sex. It teaches men how to monitor and learn their sexual response. This enables them to control their ejaculation and hold it back so that they may have a series of non-ejaculatory orgasms. It is a little known fact that a man’s climax does not have to include ejaculation. Most men who are able to have multiple orgasms are not ejaculating every time.
While mastering this takes a lot of practice, there are clear benefits. The obvious one is that the man learns how to have more control over his erection and climax. The other is that he’s gonna be real popular with the women!
It’s not for everyone, and guys can still learn to have greater control without having to go so far as to become a Tantric master. But many couples are discovering new ways to find great pleasure and deeper intimacy through the practice of Tantric or Taoist lovemaking.
The first book to introduce this ancient technique into popular culture and a great source of information is The Multi-Orgasmic Man by a teacher of Taoist practice, Mantak Chia. Pick it up and leave it sitting on the table next time your favorite guy comes over. It just might lead to some really good times!
The Joe
I am sure some tantra masters out there would say, “Yes, of course!” I say they're liars, and it never happens, at least not in the same way women can, where one wave rides into the next. Can you imagine? Guys would never get anything done. They’d be locked up for months at a time, braving open daylight only a couple of times a year to stock up on lube, porn, and one-handed food sources.
The best a guy can do is one of two things:
• Be so into the sex that he stays hard—or medicated enough, but consult a physician if you experience priapism, an erection that persists for more than four hours, just like the commercial says.
• Be in shape enough and in control enough that he actually holds off from actual orgasm while on the verge. He may get the intital twinge but doesn't get those amusement park closing fireworks.
The real culprit here is rebound. How long a guy takes to recover and be able to go again is the issue. Your last guy had to be a horndog, a young guy, in great shape, or some combination of the the three. Even if he's a super-sexed young athlete, a guy may be working against the randomness of genetics—some guys just lose it after the first orgasm. (And all this talk makes me realize I need to get my ass on a more steady exercise regimen again.)
Whatever the case, if you're wanting to go at it over and over, the obvious first step is to try having sex more than once in the same day. If that happens successfully, you have hope for some back-to-back sex in the future.
Once you're confident that multiple times in a day works and are ready for consecutive bangs, what you should do is play to his perversions to convince him to keep going after some vanilla sex is out of the way. You should be able to tease him into at least Round Two with dirty talk, a strip show, a dominatrix routine, or a blowjob (but not too good of a blowjob, or he might go to sleep). A note: Rebound time can be anywhere from five minutes to an hour, so your stamina might be tested too... so get to suckin’!
If that doesn't work, then start working out together, because he might not be in good enough shape to handle you again, you saucy minx.